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Doom scrolling and protecting attention
Why endless scrolling holds the attention so firmly, the harm it causes to concentration, and how families may reclaim their time for useful pursuits.
Resources
This Week With Huzoor — 24 November 2023 (mobile phones)
alislam.org
This Week With Huzoor — 24 November 2023 (mobile phones)
Al Islam (Official)
Responsible Use of Internet and Social Media
alislam.org
Responsible Use of Internet and Social Media
Al Islam (Official)
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Verified guidance from the Ahmadiyya Muslim Jamaat
Directly sourced from Friday Sermons, Q&A sessions and official publications — no paraphrasing.
Khalifatul Masih V · Address to children
A direct warning to children themselves: idle scrolling can harm body and mind
“Idly watching TV, or scrolling endlessly on electronic devices can damage your physical and mental health.”
Germany · 2019-01-01
Verified source
Publication: Cited in Review of Religions, 'Phones: A Love-Hate Relationship'
- TextThe Review of Religionshttps://www.reviewofreligions.org/47816/phones-a-love-hate-relationship/
Khalifatul Masih V · Social Media (book), p. 36
Facebook 'shatters boundaries' — named as the flagship example of the social-app category
“These days a new method of introduction has been created on the computer and the Internet called Facebook. ... It shatters the boundaries among people, boundaries from one another, boundaries around secrets. It exposes secrets and invites indecency.”
N/A — book excerpt · 2015-01-01
Verified source
Publication: alislam.org / official compilation
- Textfiles.alislam.cloudhttps://files.alislam.cloud/pdf/Social-Media.pdf
Khalifatul Masih V · This Week with Huzoor — timestamp 19:58
'How can we safeguard ourselves from the addiction of mobile phones?'
“19:58 – How can we safeguard ourselves from the addiction of mobile phones?”
Broadcast mulaqat with Waqifaat-e-Nau, Belgium · 2023-11-24
Verified source
Publication: alislam.org video archive
- VideoAl Islam (Official)https://www.alislam.org/video/this-week-with-huzoor-24-november-2023/
Khalifatul Masih V · Friday Sermon
Screen time at night undermines the quality of morning prayer
“You can observe this in most homes that the eldest to the youngest are not offering Fajr Salat on time as they were either watching TV or were online on the Internet until late, watching some program and, as a result, they could not wake up on time.”
Baitul Futuh Mosque, London · 2013-03-15
Verified source
Publication: Al Fazl International, 5 April 2013
- VideoAl Islam (Official)https://www.alislam.org/friday-sermon/2013-03-15.html
- TextAl Islam (Official)https://www.alislam.org/book/social-media/excessive-use-of-tv-internet-leads-to-neglect-of-worship/
Khalifatul Masih V · Waqf-e-Nau Class
Love of Allah cannot grow alongside TV-drama obsession
“If the worldly desire increases so that one is engrossed in TV dramas and the Internet and is late in offering Salat, then love for Allah cannot develop. Gaining this love requires sacrifice of desires.”
Masjid Baitur Rasheed, Germany · 2011-10-08
Verified source
Publication: Al Fazl International, 6 January 2012
Trusted online-safety guidance
Verified advice on this topic from recognised child online-safety organisations.
Internet Matters
Keep Children Safe Online: Information, advice, support
“Working with online experts, we're here to provide parent, carers and professionals with advice and support to keep children safe online”
https://www.internetmatters.org/
Common Sense Media
Online Safety — Parenting, Media, and Everything in Between
“Get advice about Online Safety from Common Sense Media editors.”
https://www.commonsensemedia.org/articles/online-safety
Childline
Online safety
“You should feel good while you're online. To help you out, we've got tips, advice, and support you can use however you like.”
https://www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/bullying-abuse-safety/online-mobile-safety/
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Coping tools for doom scrolling
A quick plan for the moment it happens, the settings that make scrolling less sticky, and words to start the conversation.
The 90-second reset
Use this the moment you or your child notice the scroll has taken over. Do it together the first few times.
- 1Name it out loud: "I have been scrolling and I did not choose to."
- 2Put the phone face down, at arm's length, or in another room.
- 3Take three slow breaths and unclench your jaw and shoulders.
- 4Stand up, stretch, drink some water, or step outside for a moment.
- 5Say a short prayer or dhikr, or read one verse — turn the attention upward.
- 6Decide the next thing on purpose: homework, a chore, a walk, or five minutes of talking.
Settings that make scrolling less sticky
0 of 22 doneChange these together with your child and explain why. Tick them off as you go — your progress is saved on this device.
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Conversation starters
Calm, curious openings — not accusations. Pick one and ask it tonight, or ask Tarbiyyat for help with the reply.
- How do you feel after an hour on the app — better, worse, or just flat?Ask this in the chat
- What does the feed keep showing you lately? Can I see?Ask this in the chat
- When is it hardest to stop scrolling — bedtime, after school, when you are bored?Ask this in the chat
- If we set one screen-free hour together, when should it be?Ask this in the chat
- Has anything online made you feel worse about yourself? You can tell me anything.Ask this in the chat
- What would you rather have done with that hour, honestly?Ask this in the chat
- Shall we both put our phones away before Maghrib and see how it feels?Ask this in the chat
- What could I do differently with my own phone to make this fairer?Ask this in the chat
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