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Discipline with kindness
The blessed example of the Holy Prophet (sa) in dealing with children with affection, and how parents may correct their children without harshness.
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Verified guidance from the Ahmadiyya Muslim Jamaat
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Khalifatul Masih V · Friday Sermon
Excessive love for children can itself become a form of hidden shirk
“Disobeying a clear commandment of Allah the Exalted, so that one may agree with the demands of the children is a covert shirk... This is neither entertainment nor freedom; rather, these are pits of fire in the name of entertainment and freedom.”
Switzerland · 2010-04-23
Verified source
Publication: Al Fazl International, 14 May 2010
- TextAl Islam (Official)https://www.alislam.org/book/social-media/role-of-parents-in-training-of-children/
Khalifatul Masih V · Guidance to the National Amila (executive) of Finland
'Do not lose your own children while attempting to reform others'
“Do not lose your own children while attempting to reform others. That should be our foremost concern.”
Finland (virtual meeting) · 2021-11-07
Verified source
Publication: Al Hakam, 12 November 2021
Khalifatul Masih V · This Week with Huzoor
Parents must watch children's mobile phone time — and explain why, with kindness
“It is the duty of the parents as well that they should watch that their children are not spending too much time on mobile phones and make them realise, with love and kindness, that they have a purpose and they should try to achieve that purpose instead of wasting their time on online games.”
MTA studios (mulaqat broadcast) · 2025-12-12
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Publication: MTA News, 12 December 2025; cited in Review of Religions
- VideoMTA Internationalhttps://www.mta.tv/news/120717/this-week-with-huzoor-12th-december-2025
- TextThe Review of Religionshttps://www.reviewofreligions.org/47816/phones-a-love-hate-relationship/
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Keep Children Safe Online: Information, advice, support
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NSPCC
Talking to your child about online safety
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https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/online-safety/talking-child-online-safety/
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